Rest. It's an anomaly in our culture—often seen as wasteful or an excuse to be lazy. In a world full of opportunities and incredible access, how can we not want to do it all? If we just do it, as Nike says then we'll be successful; we'll feel fulfilled; we'll make it. Right?
Rest was for the weak. That's how I was raised. Strive until you thrive. Welp, it's a lie. I have been "doing" for most of my life and I've found the opposite to be true. Going, going, going did not bring about the life I hoped for or wanted. Instead, it wreaked havoc on my health and kept my relationships from blossoming into deeply rooted and fully honest friendships.
Fortunately, through the grace of God and dear friends, I was forced to stop and realize the truth about rest. I needed it. Ironically, I was weak, because I hadn't rested. It seems obvious now, but when I was in the hamster wheel of accomplishing I didn't have time for anything but forward motion. This type A people-pleaser had to try to do it all (and burn out hard) before finally being willing to see the truth.
Rest is necessary for being whole—for resetting and refreshing the mind, body, and soul. It allows your mind to cultivate healing, growth, and original creativity. It's not for the weak. It's for all. I cannot encourage you enough—rest!
Well, what does it look like to rest? Typically, it requires stopping. After that, it's as unique as the one seeking rest. For me it took stopping and then taking everything in my life down a notch or two...or four. I slowed waaaaaay down. Most importantly, I lowered my expectations for myself (which are probably far too high anyways) and got better at reminding myself of my value outside of accomplishments. From there, with the space in my life to rest, I began finding ways to live it out. My resting can now look like sitting and reading a fun book, sitting at the beach and soaking up the sun for a few hours, sleeping 8+ hours, consciously choosing to not worry about tomorrow or any day after, eating slowly and thoughtfully, sipping tea at home with Josh and just talking about whatever comes to our minds, walking slowly along the coast, writing in my journal with no end goal, or just singing because it makes me happy. I'm sure there are more, but you get the idea. Rest can be as diverse as you wish, as long as it fills your life with joyful, peaceful quieter moments.
Have you thought about what it looks like for you to rest? Allow yourself to simmer on the idea and, once you have a few ideas, pick one to add to your life this week. You may find yourself just a little bit more cheerful and present in your everyday—granting yourself much needed grace to carry-on in this fast-paced world.
À votre santé!