Softening. We need it on all levels – body, mind and spirit. Softening simply means inviting into our lives moments and pauses that allow for de-escalation. It may be as quick as 3 deep and full breathes through the nose or laying horizontal and gently working a few facial reflex points. It could also include complete moments that soften and cultivate authentic calm throughout every part of our being.
For me this is a walk along my local seaside cliffs with a light breeze a gentle haze and no one else around except perhaps a lone surfer also enjoying the gentle roll of the deep blue waves and elegant soaring pelicans. This is a complete moment for me. It soothes my body with the gentle rhythm of my thoughtful movement, revives my brain with deep breaths of sea air and relieves eye tension with horizon distance gazing. It calms my heart and mind as I allow my thoughts to dance lightly not forcing anything. It speaks to my spirit as my authentic nature is most at home by the sea and amongst the wildflowers that grow along these cliffs. Whenever I take this specific moment, I feel refreshed and stable, ready to face anything that comes my way.
This is truly what it means to be in the state of authentic calm. It’s not happiness or even peace per say, it’s a balanced state in which you are tightly connected to who you are and why you are here, how your body needs to be cared for to sustain itself and what patterns of thought need support or are ready to be released. Softening leads us to this place. It gives us room to reflect and contemplate what we need in order to cultivate our authentic calm. Authentic calm does not occur overnight, nor does it always remain once you’ve identified it or enjoyed it for a season. It is something we must return to daily, but it does become easier and easier each time we do.
Take a pause today. I’ve included some of my personal favorites tools and rituals to soften as well as a few I guide clients through in my Soften sessions. Remember even 2 minutes a day can provide a holistic softening and make way for growth and shifts.
Make a nest for yourself with blankets or a cozy chair near a plant. Brew some organic loose leaf tea and have it ready and steaming for yourself as you sit with eyes closed to enjoy a few cycles of breathe or follow along with my guided intro breathwork exercise. Upon opening your eyes, enjoy a book of guidance, inspiration or reflection and allow the words to float in, connecting with you. Journal the words, thoughts or processes that come to mind through the breathwork and light study. Close your eyes and enjoy a few more cycles of breath, whispering thank you to close out the time. Slowly open your eyes and welcome in the fresh day.
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Inhale deeply through the nose, at the top of the breath lift and extend toes to gain a little more air, then lift your smile with your left lip for a little more and finally with your right lip to get that last little bit more of air in before you release slowly and gently through the nose. Repeat 2-3x. Ending with a prayer or word of intention like “ thank you”, “Jesus” or “release”.
Make or set up your meal at a table, outside if possible. Sit upright and place your hands on the table. Inhale through your nose, exhaling through your mouth 3x, then close your eyes and inhale and exhale through your nose only for 3 breaths. Slowly open eyes and immediately think about a bitter food, like lemons or arugula to get your salivary juices flowing. Eat each bite with intention, savoring it as if it were your last, noting flavors, textures and aftertaste. Breathe between bites, setting your fork down often. Do not get up from the table until you’ve finished the meal.
Take a dose (4 drops) of your custom or one of my universal flower remedies on the tip of your tongue. Roll it under your tongue and with your eyes closed let it sit for 1-2 easy breathes, savoring the gift of the plants and their messages to your subconscious. With a smile and final breath swallow any remaining remedy. Open your eyes and continue with your day.
Simplest of all the options. Spray your face, body and environment with Solar Rose Water or a homemade concoction of a few drops of your favorite high-quality essential oils (already in a carrier oil) in spring water.
Sitting somewhere comfortable, close your eyes and place the heal of your clean hands along the eye socket bones on either side of your nose. Slowly roll the rest of your palm and fingers towards the face to connect with the upper face. Take 3-5 deep breaths here. When ready remove hands gently, notice how you feel, soak it in for 1-2 gentle easy breathes and then open eyes.
Draw a bath. Add in 1-3 cups of Epsom salts, a 1-2 tbsp of mustard bath powder and a dose (2 drops) of your custom or one of my universal flower remedies. As the bath is filling, rest on a bath mat or towel in the same room and gently massage a simple oil into your bodily skin. Take deep softening breaths throughout the process, thanking your Creator for every inch of the beautiful body you are touching. I love to have a pure beeswax candle burning with my -favorites- playlist in the background during this sacred time.