If I Wanted to be Pregnant in 6 Months – The 6 Steps I’d Take
Infertility is incredibly common for many reasons, and they are rarely because your body is not wired to create, hold, and birth a beautiful, healthy baby. You are not broken. I’ll say that again - you my dear are not broken. Your body is ready and willing to work towards creating a warm and robust environment for your future little one. It is just battling quite a few challenges at the moment. Being a human right now is not easy. From our food, to our air, to our clothes, to our furtnaure, to our tech, to our travel to our relationships… it’s all impacting our bodies day in and day out. Your body is working HARD to keep you upright, let’s just start there! Asking it to reproduce under present circumstance is a big request. So we start with easing the impact of your everyday and then move into any deeper blocks that could be demanding your body’s focus that could prevent capacity for reproduction. That’s really what it’s most often about - capacity. When we give the body what it needs to navigate tis current emergencies and challenges suddenly the door swings wide open.
I will add, that we’re just talking about your side of the fence. The state of your partner or donor’s sperm is a HUGE piece and often the main block of fertility. Always check in on this before assuming it’s you, especially if you do all that I recommend below.
I am 38, so if I wanted to get pregnant by the end of the year this is what I would do! I firrrrrrrrmly believe women can conceive and birth well into their 40s, so none of the geriatric talk over here. We’re way beyond that now. It’s all about your internal state.
My 6 Steps for Undeniable Fertility
Step 1: Environmental Reset. Start here:
Air/Surface Toxins - remove all chemicals from your home. I love Branch Basics as both a cleaner and a resource for education around this topic. I also love Dr. Bronner’s lines - his biodegradable concentrate is a go-to for me. For any mold/bacteria growth, I rely on 12 % Hydrogen Peroxide to kill and clear. I never use bleach. I am a HUGE proponent of air filters - like I buy them for when I live abroad for a few months. At home, I’m currently using Intellipure. Also, open your windows and door and air out your home 1-2x daily to keep it fresh and flowing. Beeswax candles for life. Clean and check your HVAC/AC unit every 3-4 months to prevent mold/bacteria growth getting circulated throughout your home.
Skin Toxins - use only non-toxic makeup, skincare, and aromas. There are so many good options now. My favorites for makeup can be found at Shop Good, Credo and the Detox-Market. For skin, this is so personal, I use Agent Nateur, Regen Labs, Organic rosehip oil, Organic jojoba oil, and LESSE sunscreen. For perfume, I love a local Venice brand, Strange Invisible.
Fabric Toxins - swap out linens and clothes for organic, linen, breathable, natural fabrics as often as possible, but especially on your bed, with underwear and clothes you sweat in. I only sleep on linen or organic cotton. I love Avocado and Awara for mattresses; I’ve had both and loved both. I use organic down pillows only, no polyester here.
EMF/Man-Made Frequencies - reduce your exposure. You MUST do this. It’s invisible, so it can be tough to know how to navigate it. We only have 6 months, so unless you have the time to do a lot of research, I’m just going to ask you to trust me on this one. Turn your wifi off at night with this remote. Add an EMF mitigator, ideally one in bedroom and one for the rest of the house. I’ve been a long time user of Somavedics and Blushield. If you want to really go for it, use this service to protect/support your entire property. You can also use it when you travel, just update the address. Put YouMatrix on your phone, I know the founders personally and deeply trust them and their work. Add real rocks and perhaps some shungite and tourmaline to your space as you feel led.
Water Toxins - number one - STOP drinking tap - anywhere in the USA. Invest in spring water delivery, and if you can, filter this as well. I trust Mountain Spring Valley (even if it’s not perfect) or Alive Water. I’ve felt the best on these, personally. You can go the Reverse Osmosis route, but know that it’s just not the same structurally as natural water. There are some really great filters out there now, just make sure you’re taking steps to avoid our medication, chemical-filled tap water. Britas are nowhere near enough. Choose stainless steel, glass, and, if you must use plastic, choose very hard non-leaching plastic. Shower/bath/sink filters are critical as well. For a simple one, Jolie works!
Cookware + Food Storage Toxins - just choose glass, stainless steel, ceramic/stone, wood, or food grade silicone for everything. It’s not too complicated here. No non-stick, y’all. Keep plastic out of your kitchen. I love All-Clad for cookware. It’s classic and sturdy and reliable. Cast iron and copper are tricky and depend on your mineral levels, so use only if testing your blood chemistry regularly.
Light Toxins - swap your bulbs for old school incandescents or embrace red light filters. If I must have blue light after dark, I try to expose myself to red light or burn a beeswax candle within eyesight so my body gets the signal that it needs to maintain a healthy circadian rhythm - this is another invisible but powerful piece to fertility. Light directs your body. Work with it by nurturing its needed natural morning and night rhythms. Giving my bare eyes bright morning light first thing upon waking and then watching the sunset often is another way I support this. Here’s a great free guide on how to create a true red light filter on your phone (the built-in light warmers are not actually changing it to the healthy red).
Step 2: Diet Shifts.
Find out your blood type. Based on this eat, generally, in alignment with what your body can easily digest so that you are getting as many vitamins, minerals and macros as possible from your food. I’m an A+ so I keep my red meat and cow dairy and certain starches to a minimum and eat as much sushi, fish, vegetables and healthy grains and fruits I can!
Find out your Human Design digestive type. Adjust your eating style and environment to match this so that you can, again, receive more nutrients from every bite you take and prevent any extra burden to your digestive system (the greatest energy sucker of all bodily functions!). I’m Open Taste, so I listen to my body and only eat what sounds good. I can usually tell by how a piece of produce feels in my hand or by asking my body yes, no and it’ll give a strong response around food. I do this with supplements too!
Eat QUALITY. Regardless of your blood or HD type, you need nutrient-DENSE food NOW. Your baby’s development is pulled from your state in the first trimester. Once you're pregnant, there’s not too much more you can do to enhance your baby’s foundational structure, so start BEFORE, ideally. Same with your partner!! I like to eat like I could get pregnant any day, because I believe I deserve to be as nourished NOW as I do when I am creating another human. By quality, I mean start with labels - look for grass-fed, wild, organic, non-gmo, then once this is normal progress to local, seasonal, grass-finished, soaked and sprouted grains, high high quality small batch production levels, and lean into what your body needs and craves, whether that’s fermented/cooked or fresh food, variety or consistency. I’d make sure I was feeding myself higher levels of all the macros I need. Again, I’m an A with a hyperspeedy brain, so for me this would mean loooooots of seafood/raw fish and good grains and veggies eaten often. I lean more naturally towards hypoglycemia, unlike blood type Os or gentler brain action types, who are more prone to needing red meat, low grains and space between meals. Become the expert of your body. I love this part. See me if you struggle here.
Step 3: Sleep Prioritization.
8+ Hours. Sleep is not optional any longer. You must get 8+ hours of horizontal rest every night. In bed by 10 PM at the latest and waking up at 8 AM would be ideal. I shoot for 11 PM lights out now, so I’d bump that up.
Dark and cool. Having a bedroom that is blacked out and chilled, on top of all the environmental shifts you made above, will allow for more to be restored overnight.
Sleeping alone if you don’t rest deeply sharing a bed - yes, I’m very serious about this one. Look up HD sleeping energy to know if you and your partner are a good match for overnight bed sharing or if you’re draining or activating each other. If you are struggling to sleep, see me.
Owning your natural tendencies and working with them. I am currently the weakest here. I like being a night bug, so I’d have to buckle down and let my night projects take the backseat! I wear an Oura ring at night (when I remember) to track my sleep, and in prep for baby creation, I’d get very on top of my sleep score!
Step 4: Strength + Movement.
Tone and train. Carrying a child and the birthing process is an olympic sport. So I would make sure that I maintained, if not ramped up my muscle toning and fortifying activities. I’m naturally a mover, so I’d simply optimize. I’d increase my yoga practice from 3-4x a week to 5x. I’d walk even more and probably focus more on stair climbs. I’d also begin working with a pelvic floor therapist to make sure I’m open and strong, with no blocks.
Get honest with what’s the best fit. You need to know what exercise is best for you. Do you know this? I used to be waaay more intense as an athlete and then barre instructor. Now I know that’s actually very stressful for my body. More is not better. Harder is not often the answer for women. Again, if you need help determining what level or type of exercise is suited to your unique structure and energy, see me.
Step 5: Internal Reset.
Gut Testing. Right away, I’d order a stool panel - GI-MAP is my choice - to see the state of my gut microbiome and digestive activity. My microbiome, both gut and vaginal, would be passed on to my child, and it takes at least 6 months to see a change if there are any big imbalances, like fungal, viral or bacterial overgrowth, parasite colonization or bigger digestive blocks. I would want to have the time and space to address this before conceiving, because once I’m pregnant, I would not take any eradicating or clearing supplements or supports. I’d only focus on nourishment and building. I run these on myself already, but if you need testing, see me.
Hormone Check. I’d run a full hormonal cycle tracking panel with DUTCH to see my ebbs and flows and know where I may need to boost progesterone or reduce estrogen or perhaps even boost all! The goal would be to communicate to my body that it has the juice to create life without wrecking me. I’d use supplements and food to fortify where needed based on my labs. I’d start with herbs and then, if needed in the short-term, since I’m on a 6 month deadline, bring in therapeutic high-quality oral bioidenticals. I can run this on myself. If you need it, see me.
Toxin Load Review. I’d run toxin panels to test my mycotoxin, endotoxin, heavy metal, and chemical levels. Whatever came up I’d go hard and invest in the treatments needed to clear these out of my body ASAP. This could look like working with clearance protocols alongside hyperbaric, ozone, and plasma exchange. I’d also run DNA/genetic mutation panels on myself to see what’s potentially going to be activated when I am pregnant or could be at play with my little one, so that if an MD recommends anything I have the education, data and processed wisdom to respond with what is correct for my child and me. I can fortunately, run these tests on myself. If you need them, see me.
Baseline Prevention. Lastly, I’d do a full body MRI and thermography so that I knew my baseline before pregnancy, and also can see if there are any pressing issues I’m unaware of that are starting to develop. I’ve personally used Prenuvo the last 2 years.
Step 6: Surrender
Trusting the process. I’d work on choosing to let whatever happens happen. If I am meant to be a mother of a child, it will happen. If not, it won’t, and other avenues to channel my mothering gifts will present. I personally already feel fulfilled here, but for those who do not, really spend time in this space. Creating from a place of freedom, versus pressure, is always better. As we know, forcing the body never works for women. We must allow our bodies to guide us. If your body is ready, you will conceive. If not, making it happen will not result in ease, even if a baby does come into the world. It will be quite the journey for both of you. Again, it’s not always just about you - your partner plays a large role in this process too. Releasing what needs to happen in that realm is also a vital part of the process. Sometimes it’s not you. It’s the partnership that is not correct for the baby to come through. I’ve walked through this personally. It’s not often clear in the moment, so I share because it’s not often spoken about.
Honoring my worth. I’d curate a mental conversation that continually reminded me that my value is not tied to my ability to reproduce. To know deep in my bones that my richness as a woman goes so much further than bringing children into the world.
Waiting to do any deep study. Protecting my mind. I LOVE to prepare and research. If I wasn’t careful, I’d be deep in a rabbit hole of all the ways to birth naturally and create the best holistic pregnancy possible for my future angel. I mean lets’s be honest, I already have read multiple books and have an amazon list miles long of all that to-be read books as well as multiple instagram bookmarksfor all the layers and parts of conception, pregnancy, birth and motherhood. It’s also for my clinical practice, but…. I’ve been doing this for years, even as someone who wasn’t feeling ready or right for pregnancy! Can you imagine what I’ll be like when I’m actually ready!? Insane. Insane is the word. So if you’re like me, know this about yourself, and protect your mind and heart and HOLD OFF. Let the magic of it all just move through you. When you conceive, then you can slowly and gently begin learning and gleaning more. The truth is our bodies know exactly what to do and how to handle this process, so it’s less about expertise and more about allowing and TRUSTING. The best work you can do right now? Learn how to TRUST your body. That is what you will come back to as the authority throughout the entire process of motherhood, from pre-conception all the way to watching your child birth their own little one. Strengthen this connection, and you will make the best investment possible in yourself and any future souls you have the honor of mothering.
Okay, my loves, that is a glimpse into how I’d go about prepping for pregnancy. It’s obviously personal, but also clinical, as it’s generally how I guide my clients, since most of you are wired just like me! Take it and make it your own, and reach out with any questions. There’s sooooo much more I could share, as always, but here’s the starting foundation. Love to you as you begin your journey!
Always here to walk through it with you, should you desire it.
